I will not ask you for anything else in my whole life..Believe me.. I will live the way you want me to... i will do whatever you wish me to... I promise..!! Just Don’t make me break the promise i made to myself 15 years back..Believe me if i break that i will not be able to see myself in eye..Will not be happy .... i will never be able to call myself sensible and educated ..
Just this little wish of mine.. Please ...just one small wish..Dear God!!
Give me a way...a solution.. atleast let me try .. i might fail in it..But i want to try ...Help me God... You know all this ..what all keeps running in my mind all these days and you too see all this from somewhere .. the wedding drama,,i am talking about...
You know that i don’t go to weddings.. in fact i have not attended any wedding in last 15 years ..Not a single wedding... And you know the reason why ..
Because I hate the wasteful expenditures and dramas associated with it
15 years back when i attended my cousins wedding i made a promise to myself that i am not going to get married this way ..Not at all! God will find me someone sensible enough who can understand and will help me keep my promise.
We all are educated and sensible people and how can someone like us still wants to get married in those old ways..Why are we still scared to break the trend.. y can’t we keep the things simple..y on one hand u say that girls are equal to guy and on the same time u make a girl's parent suffer so much just becoz they have a daughter who in fact is much more capable then u .
Have u ever got sometime to think that those traditions and customs have some meanings..
Yes, i do understand that weddings give families a chance to get together and enjoy .i have no problem with that but only when it is mean for close and real relatives and friends.. Not for everyone u said a Hi sometime..Some years back...sometime
Can you open your eyes and see that your way means so much waste of time, energy and resources, just for one function. What do you think.. All those people who come to the wedding, all are happy for you? believe me, no ,not even half of them are ,,this is today's world..Wake up !!
Please Dont' do it just for the sake of doing or becoz every1 else is doing.. What people will think and talk of if we will not follow the same path... they all are fools..We are not..Not everyone is Laxmi mittal .. Just think, how difficult is for a salaried employee to take so many leaves and prepare for one day. Whole life's saving has to be spend just for that one grand reception..
Why...????
You and your family might be very ambitious about your marriage ..They might have some competition with someone in the society to excel in who spends more on wedding But just for their satisfaction in beating their neighbor by spending more money make no sense to me.
Why to invite hundreds and thousands of people to feast ,Cant these invited guests afford to eat a good dinner ,then y scores of costly items are included in the main dinner? Looks like they can’t.. that the reason they fall on the dinner like vultures and fill their bellies and the thing i hate the most ..They leave behind heavy amounts of leftover which will be consigned to drains
That wasted food could extinguish the fire of hunger of hundreds of people who die of starvation .
Those who get their kids married in lavish way would have ancestral property /wealth or they may be corrupt officials, dishonest politicians, black-marketers, smugglers and hoarders ..For them The black wealth flows into their lockers with an uncontrolled rush and speed.
We are not.. We are salaried employees who haven’t gone on a single family vacation just because the school/college fees were so high for all we kids that parents hardly could save anything
They are repaying the loan for the home, for the studies and many more things..dont make me feel bad about myself that i didn't let them enjoy their youth as they were earning hard for me..to make my wishes true and now when i am leaving them then also they will not be in peace .. i will leave them penniless and make their life worse..
I dont see any fun in getting dolled up in white powder and all other makeup and become a mannequin..nor do i think any of the bride-groom will feel comfortable sitting like gagged spectator ..and getting pics clicked with every1 with a smile when deep inside i will be dying of shame that i couldn’t keep my promise to myself
We work in IT industry where you can be laid off anytime..There is no pension.. How will u survive post retirement?? In such a time where petrol cost u Rs 80/L... how will you manage a family of 4-5 ?Y dont you want to spend that money in buying a flat or going for a world tour or may be helping other ..poors..use that money to get sum1 pay their college or school fee and make sum1 stand on his/her feet.
I know that deep down in heart ,the guy understand and agree with what all I am telling but just for the sake of this society ,if someone is not speaking, if he can't take a stand for me on this very right thing, how can i be sure that he will be with me in all my ups& downs. Don’t be so adamant guy..Think about it!!
We are Jains..Jains who have bests of best Teachings...
We the one who don’t leave any leftover in our plates will be responsible for leaving tons of food in feast from which we can ideally feed hundreds of poors, who believe in Ahimsa will be killing hundreds of microorganisms .it is our gurus who give us live example of living in simplicity, can’t we make just one occasion of our life simple if not our complete life?
Think about it ...
Just this little wish of mine.. Please ...just one small wish..Dear God!!
Give me a way...a solution.. atleast let me try .. i might fail in it..But i want to try ...Help me God... You know all this ..what all keeps running in my mind all these days and you too see all this from somewhere .. the wedding drama,,i am talking about...
You know that i don’t go to weddings.. in fact i have not attended any wedding in last 15 years ..Not a single wedding... And you know the reason why ..
Because I hate the wasteful expenditures and dramas associated with it
15 years back when i attended my cousins wedding i made a promise to myself that i am not going to get married this way ..Not at all! God will find me someone sensible enough who can understand and will help me keep my promise.
We all are educated and sensible people and how can someone like us still wants to get married in those old ways..Why are we still scared to break the trend.. y can’t we keep the things simple..y on one hand u say that girls are equal to guy and on the same time u make a girl's parent suffer so much just becoz they have a daughter who in fact is much more capable then u .
Have u ever got sometime to think that those traditions and customs have some meanings..
Yes, i do understand that weddings give families a chance to get together and enjoy .i have no problem with that but only when it is mean for close and real relatives and friends.. Not for everyone u said a Hi sometime..Some years back...sometime
Can you open your eyes and see that your way means so much waste of time, energy and resources, just for one function. What do you think.. All those people who come to the wedding, all are happy for you? believe me, no ,not even half of them are ,,this is today's world..Wake up !!
Please Dont' do it just for the sake of doing or becoz every1 else is doing.. What people will think and talk of if we will not follow the same path... they all are fools..We are not..Not everyone is Laxmi mittal .. Just think, how difficult is for a salaried employee to take so many leaves and prepare for one day. Whole life's saving has to be spend just for that one grand reception..
Why...????
You and your family might be very ambitious about your marriage ..They might have some competition with someone in the society to excel in who spends more on wedding But just for their satisfaction in beating their neighbor by spending more money make no sense to me.
Why to invite hundreds and thousands of people to feast ,Cant these invited guests afford to eat a good dinner ,then y scores of costly items are included in the main dinner? Looks like they can’t.. that the reason they fall on the dinner like vultures and fill their bellies and the thing i hate the most ..They leave behind heavy amounts of leftover which will be consigned to drains
That wasted food could extinguish the fire of hunger of hundreds of people who die of starvation .
Those who get their kids married in lavish way would have ancestral property /wealth or they may be corrupt officials, dishonest politicians, black-marketers, smugglers and hoarders ..For them The black wealth flows into their lockers with an uncontrolled rush and speed.
We are not.. We are salaried employees who haven’t gone on a single family vacation just because the school/college fees were so high for all we kids that parents hardly could save anything
They are repaying the loan for the home, for the studies and many more things..dont make me feel bad about myself that i didn't let them enjoy their youth as they were earning hard for me..to make my wishes true and now when i am leaving them then also they will not be in peace .. i will leave them penniless and make their life worse..
I dont see any fun in getting dolled up in white powder and all other makeup and become a mannequin..nor do i think any of the bride-groom will feel comfortable sitting like gagged spectator ..and getting pics clicked with every1 with a smile when deep inside i will be dying of shame that i couldn’t keep my promise to myself
We work in IT industry where you can be laid off anytime..There is no pension.. How will u survive post retirement?? In such a time where petrol cost u Rs 80/L... how will you manage a family of 4-5 ?Y dont you want to spend that money in buying a flat or going for a world tour or may be helping other ..poors..use that money to get sum1 pay their college or school fee and make sum1 stand on his/her feet.
I know that deep down in heart ,the guy understand and agree with what all I am telling but just for the sake of this society ,if someone is not speaking, if he can't take a stand for me on this very right thing, how can i be sure that he will be with me in all my ups& downs. Don’t be so adamant guy..Think about it!!
We are Jains..Jains who have bests of best Teachings...
We the one who don’t leave any leftover in our plates will be responsible for leaving tons of food in feast from which we can ideally feed hundreds of poors, who believe in Ahimsa will be killing hundreds of microorganisms .it is our gurus who give us live example of living in simplicity, can’t we make just one occasion of our life simple if not our complete life?
Think about it ...
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